By: Elle Alexander
Okay, you’re single now… Breakups can be painful and confusing, but what good is it going to do sitting around feeling sorry for yourself, right?
Now is the time to enjoy doing all the things that you weren’t able to before. You don’t have to share your bed, your food, your remote or anything else if you don’t want to. This is one of the few times in your life that you get to be a little more selfish and you should be enjoying every minute of it. You don’t need a guy to give you want you want, right? Just do it for yourself.
I know it gets lonely and it hurts sometimes when things didn’t work out the way you had hoped for. I’m not telling you to ignore your feelings or repress them, because at the end of the day, you have to be able to accept it and move forward. The only way you can do that is to acknowledge it and stop wondering what if, or blaming yourself and start thinking about the positives that resulted from it. Let’s take a look at some that you might be taking for granted:
- Not having to shave your legs every day
- Being able to wear mismatching undergarments.
- Having the whole bed to yourself (sans snoring)
- No arguing over what to watch on TV
- More time to do what YOU want
- Not being obligated to go to family functions.
- Nobody is using you or mooching off of you
- Nobody’s making you feel bad about yourself
- Not having to share food or buy as much of it
- Not getting cheated on
- Having more time to work on your goals
- Options. Options. Options…;)
It’s time to start focusing on being the best version of yourself and enjoying your life. You don’t need someone else to validate you or make you feel good. That comes from within. And if you don’t feel strong or you don’t feel good about yourself, you need to change that and do something about it. Nobody can do that for you but you, so start figuring out what that’s going to take and take it one day at a time.
The most attractive people are the ones who are busy, focused and positive. So if you want to be a good catch, remember that. People aren’t generally attracted to those who feel sorry for themselves and mope. People who are happy don’t sit around and dwell on things and make excuses; they get up and take charge.
So press play, open a nice bottle of wine (if you’d like). Order some cute leggings that make you feel like a million dollars.Paint your nails a fierce shade and get done up for your new happy life. Because you alone, are responsible for your happiness. Make yourself feel good and start looking at all the positives. You don’t have to find a man to buy you a ring; buy your own. (This one is the crossover ring from Zales. I think it’s pretty symbolic of moving over into your new life. )